The Four Agreements Take Nothing Personally

Being human is beautiful and amazing, and it`s also complex. I am directly with you and I am learning to be authentic and ready to connect while allowing others to have their own process. If you take something personal, I invite you to meet with compassion and slowly begin to remember that you are naturally loved and worthy. Here too, through this process, you can document your support system and remember the many people and places you can contact for a connection. When I personally take things, I ask myself (painful) questions like: all this said that if you are in friendship with someone whose words or actions harm you, it is healthy to set limits, create limits and honor you. You can experience great feelings, and these are all real and valid. Feeling hurt doesn`t mean taking something personal. However, in the healing process, it will be important to practice this agreement and ensure that the person`s actions were not above you and/or your worth. Knowing that these insults have nothing to do with me, as Ruiz says, prevents me from absorbing his poison.

All I have to do is learn to laugh instead of cry. The third agreement describes the question of whether assumptions are made as to how it leads to suffering and why individuals should not participate in doing so. If you assume what others think, it can create stress and interpersonal conflict, because the person thinks that his hypothesis is a representation of the truth. [10] Ruiz believes that one solution to overcome the adoption act is to ask questions and ensure that communication between those involved is clear. [9] Individuals can avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama by not taking any assumptions. [1] The fourth agreement allows readers to have a better understanding of the progress made in achieving their goals in life. This agreement involves the integration of the first three agreements into daily life and the exploitation of its own potential. [8] It is a matter of doing the best that can be managed individually, which varies from the different situations and circumstances that the individual may encounter. Ruiz believes that if you judge yourself and do your best at all times, you will be able to avoid remorse.

[10] By integrating the first three chords and doing the best in all facets of life, the individual will be able to lead a life without grief or self-awareness. [10] In addition to the book and audiobook, there is also an ebook, a four-colour picture book, a map deck and an online course. [1] Whatever happens around you, don`t take it personally… What others do is not because of you. It`s up to himself. All men live in their own dreams, in their own minds; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. If we take something personal, we assume that they know what is in our world and we try to impose our world on their world. Ruiz explains that this agreement is certainly the most important, but that the most difficult thing is to respect it. [7] For this agreement, Ruiz first analyzes the word “irreprocible.” The perfectly irreproachable word comes from the Latin word peccatus, which means “sin,” and the term “im” at the beginning of blame is the Latin prefix meaning “without.” Ruiz describes a sin as all that goes against himself, and therefore to be impeccable with language is to assume the responsibility of one and without judgment against oneself and against the other.

[8] This agreement focuses primarily on the importance of speaking with integrity and carefully choosing the words before saying it out loud. [9] Even if a situation seems so personal, even if others directly insult you, it has nothing to do with you.

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